GLORY DERIVES FROM GOOD BEHAVIOUR

Glory comes from good behavior.

The phenomenon of language use is often found in folk language expressions that require an analytical effort to get the meaning to be conveyed. The use of language like this is also referred to as non-literal language as opposed to literal language. Literal language is the language of science which is characterized by not containing ambiguity aspects. On the other hand there is non-literal language the message conveyed is wrapped in such a way that it does not contain meaningfulness. The lexical wrapping of meaning is actually taken from the essential properties possessed by trees, natural objects, animals, insects, and the surrounding natural environment.

In this paper, we want to discuss one of the people's expressions that contain a high moral message that must be understood and implemented in social life in Bali in particular so as to create a harmonious household harmony relationship. Mémé bapan ceningi suba cara punyan sandat in teba. 'Your parents are like a cananga tree that grows in the backyard of the house.' There are three aspects to look for in order to get the message the speaker wants to convey. First, the cananga flower is one of the very fragrant flowers that spreads the fragrant oroma which is very refreshing. Second, the flower grows from a tall tree so that the breeze that blows breezes will carry and spread the fragrance of the flower in all directions in the area where the tree grows. Third, teba is the backyard of the compound which is classified as a weakening area as seen from the division of compound  areas; Perahyangan is a sacred area to establish family prayers, pawongan is a work area for residents of buildings with buildings arranged in accordance with the rules of asta-kosal-kosali and palemahan is the lowest area which is usually a place for the inhabitant of the yard to care for animals with pig pen buildings. Before the advancement of the health aspect as now where every family had built family toilets from the simplest to the very luxurious one, teba was a dirty area where family members defecated at the base of the trees one of them cananga trees.

The message to be conveyed by the creator of this phrase is parents are referred to the cananga tree that produces a fragrant flower that implies a beautiful daughter who is also often described as a flower that remains fragrant even though the flower has wilted. The intended daughter will be married by her idol man. After undergoing family life the husband loved the wife but the husband never paid attention to the in-laws and in some contexts the son-in-law also gnawed the mother-in-law through all means. This last behavior gives a picture of a cananga tree that grows behind the house, the flower is worshiped (hitchhiked) edited in the head of the main human crown and used for other sacred purposes while the cananga tree is even smothered in this context used for defecation. So, if a virgin marries a girl, he must be one with his family. Marriage is the union of two families (male and female).

This description can also be found in the Mahabharata story in the Salya Parwa section where Narasoma's first name of King Salya, son of King Madrapati, loved and married Rsi Bagaspati beautiful daughter who is like an angel descended from heaven. The Rsi was a giant man but had high knowledge and a noble heart, and occupied a hermitage on the slopes of Mount Hargabelah. One day the daughter of the Rsi named Pujawati who was always in the hermitage told the Rsi that she dreamed of a knight named Narasoma stating that the prince loved her. The Rsi meditated in order to fulfill the wishes of his only daughter. In the beginning the Sage received a message that Narasoma would take a walk in the forest near the hermitage. The Rsi intercepted Narasoma and conveyed the contents of his daughter's dream. The Rsi begged Narasoma to meet her daughter. Narasoma refused the request of the Rsi because of what Narasoma imagined that maybe the Rsi who behaved giant had a beautiful daughter. With his inner strength the Rsi flew Narasoma to meet the Princess. After opening Narasoma's eyes, he stood in front of the beautiful princess. They fell in love and were immediately married. When the newlyweds were chatting in the park, Pujawati explained that her love for Narasoma was assumed to be like a nail, even though the cut would grow all the time. While Narasoma said that his love for Pujawati is like eating white rice with a very tasty side dish, but unfortunately the white rice has straw. After the princess conveyed the expression of her husband's love to the Rsi, the Rsi understood that his son-in-law wanted his death because he felt ashamed to have a giant in-law. Then the Rsi called Narasoma and said that it was time for them to separate and advised him to look after his daughter with great affection. (Extracted from Nurkancana Wayan 2002: 125, Primacy of the Mahabharata)

From the story of Narasoma and the expression of punyan sandat in teba, a noble message can be drawn that if we love someone's daughter, love both parents because the daughter has been raised and has been educated with deep love and affection.